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Dealing with nerves

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That's kind of what I hoped...practice the nerves away. I've found playing from memory very helpful too, as you can't sit worrying about the music when you've to concentrate on remembering the piece - as long as it's not just muscle memory you're using.

Unfortunately...morris dancing's a bit thin on the ground here! :D

Anyanka said:
Nice recording! I play terribly when I try to record.
However, I got over the performance nerves (to a large extent) by playing in front of people again & again. It took over a year, but now I just enjoy it. Morris is a good practice, because you're drowned out by the bells and people watch the dancers; I also play for French dance and ceilidhs, and again - the dancers are busy and don't watch the band or listen to closely.

re making faces... Tweed told us to smile when we make a mistake. It's a very good trick because smiling makes you feel good, and there's a chance of fooling the audience into believing that it was a) deliberate and/or b) jazz.
 
Thanks for that! Would you like me to PM you the music?

Thats very true with holding your breath...it seems to be that or wheezing like some crazy banshee! I was told by someone to breath out before you start (Maybe less so for public speaking of course!) so your body has no option but to breath in. Thats if you dont pass out I suppose.

Panya37 said:
As a player of one weeks experience, Id like to say how encouraging I found your lovely little recording. I like the tune so much I might try to play it myself! If you can do that when you are feeling nervous I look forward to hearing what you play when youre relaxed.

Others here have given great suggestions about overcoming nerves; I can only maybe add from my experience (at the risk of stating the obvious): make sure you keep breathing. I had to develop a way of calming nerves as my work required me to do a lot of public speaking, sometimes to large gatherings. I am normally a fairly extrovert person but when I started giving talks my body had other ideas. I had a series of harrowing freeze-ups where I could barely remember my own name, never mind give a decent talk! The situation got worse and worse, until I finally realised that a simple physical act - breathing properly - could really help me keep a handle on the nerves and from that moment on the situation started to turn around. In the end I rarely experienced much in the way of anxiety any more.

I am sure you know we tend to constrict or hold our breath if we are tense; but with awareness we can use this relationship between breath and tension to literally breathe out our nerves. A little bit of practice at a time when you are NOT stressed will go a long way to helping you remember to breathe and relax at the tricky moments. Gentle breathing using the diaphragm (meaning, breathing down into the belly, NOT hunching up your shoulders or puffing out your chest) and making sure you dont hold your breath at all after the in-breath or out-breath, can work wonders. Choose a trigger word to remind yourself to relax and breathe consciously and see if that helps?
 
Family is definitely worse...or just folk you know...perhaps I should only play to strangers. Passing quickly. On a motorbike.

JIM D. said:
This might help you and might not. -- Some 60 years ago at 9 years old, and have been taking accordion lessons for two years, was invited to bring my accordion with me on one of my weekly visits to my Grandfathers home. The 2 tunes I played were O Sole Mio and Cielito Lindo that I had learned a played quite well. I was quite nervous as in these weekly visits the house was filled with aunts and uncles. I played the tunes while sitting in a chair and although played them well was very nervous and did not smile. When I finished the comments were you play quite well and with more practice you will become another Dick Contino. After this performance my uncle Tom (who also played the accordion) took me aside and said, you played the tunes perfectly but you must improve on how you present yourself. His advice was to go home and play the same tunes in front of a mirror will standing and smiling. I brought the accordion on the next weeks visit, played the same 2 tunes this time standing and smiling, and the comments were see what some practice will do and 100% better. To this day I will occasionally play in front of a mirror for confidence before a performance.
 
On your final comment, people do find busking helps because the audience is transient.. you get a different audience after your initial nerves, but to you it's still an audience - just not the one you 'screwed up' with.
The biggest single thing that will help is you should learn to believe... it's OK and natural to be nervous, and it's OK and natural to screw up.. .
 
Hi, yes thanks, I'd be delighted if you could PM me the music. :tup:
 
And ' psychological work : if you do not believe you automatically transmit your insecurities to others. But 'more ' easier said than done .... :D
 
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