it's nice to be able to "like" a post, but listing how many responses a member gets is really annoying, and I think, can lead to people just writing stuff to get a rise.
This is a common feature on forums and is similar to the "Thank You" feature that was added to the previous incarnation of the forum (a feature which appeared to be quite widely liked). I admit that I don't like the table showing the highest reaction scores in the member area so will be turning this off today (now that I have found out how to do it).
I don't think that people will just write stuff to get a "like"; if it is rubbish then no one will "like" it anyway.
But... did you realise that it is a reaction, not just a like? Hover over the "Like" for a second and you will see the following:
(EDIT: I've now changed the title to "React to post" to better describe what this option does.)
You can then choose the reaction you wish to convey, not just "like". I agree it is Social Media-ish, but these are the times we live in. I think this can be useful where you wish to comment in some way to a post but don't feel that a full-on reply is necessary or warranted. I've been doing some research on a few areas of the current forum software so may change some of these reactions in the near future. Also please remember that you don't have to use them; they are there for those that wish to.
Also, the idea of having a "featured" thread is completely unnecessary.
This is something I added a couple of days ago, and so far I personally have found it extremely useful. It pops up a random thread every so often (I'm still tweaking the times) from various forums. It has shown me a number of threads that I hadn't seen/noticed before, or hadn't looked at due to the title of the thread, but which I was actually interested in reading. I also think it may be of use to newer members of the forum as they may not wish to trawl back through every post from the last x months.
There are a lot of forums that look exactly like this one.
There probably are, but then there are even more which look like the previous versions as both phpBB and MyBB are much more popular bases for forums like this as the software is free of charge.
the changes have made it look very much more " trendy modern ", and less "charming ".
I don't quite know what you mean by "charm" here; do you mean old fashioned looking? Yes, the current software does look more modern, but then the MyBB version looked more modern than the original phpBB version. I do still find phpBB very old fashioned looking.
There are various themes, etc. that could be applied to the current forum to change its look, but to be honest I think the forum looks good as it is. Maybe the new, "modern" look will change peoples perception of accordionists!
and also don't need reminders that someone likes a post...
Click on your name at the top of the forum, select "Preferences" then under "Recieve a notification when someone..." uncheck the boxes from the ones you don't wish to be notified about.
if it makes it easier for you, great.
Oh, it does! It has been a huge learning curve for me as the back end administration is completely different to what has gone before, but the software is a massive improvement over the software used in the past. Not just in the things that can be done with it, i.e. its features, but in the level of support afforded to me as the administrator. The software used in the past has been "open source" and as such is supported mainly by the community of other users. Sometimes this could be slow or even non-existent; I'm still waiting for an answer to a question I posted on the MyBB forum over 4 months ago.
The current forum is commercial software and comes with official company support, along with community support too. So far the longest I've waited for an answer to a question has been around 10 minutes. I have also purchased add-ons for the software to extend its features (both front and back end), and a few times the developer has logged in to the forum and sorted the issues for me, as well as offering advice on other aspects of managing this forum software. For me, help like this is invaluable!
I know lots of people dislike change, but this change really is for the better. Please persevere with it and I'm sure you will get used to it in no time. If you get stuck, just ask